How Core Wounds Keep You Stuck

Part of the brilliance of RTT is that it helps you uncover the core wound that keeps you stuck.

A core wound can manifest as:

• Feeling unworthy or like you don’t belong

• Never feeling prioritized or safe

• Struggling to trust others or life itself

These beliefs shape your attachment style, relationships, and self-perception. If left unexamined, they can lead to a lifetime of feeling broken or disconnected.

My Core Wounds: Not Feeling Prioritized or Safe

RTT revealed to me that my two core wounds were never feeling prioritized or safe.

I know exactly where this started.

• My father lost his dad as a child and was raised by an authoritarian grandmother.

• My mother was never a priority in her family—shuffled between relatives, tasked with caring for dying family members, and left emotionally unsupported.

• When my parents became parents, they unknowingly passed down their wounds to me.

My father loved me, but he was emotionally absent. I thought he prioritized me, but in reality, I was prioritizing him.

My mother was rigid and controlling, punishing any attempt I made to express my own needs.

I spent my life chasing validation, hoping to be chosen, seen, and important to someone.

How Unresolved Wounds Show Up in Adulthood

When core wounds go unexamined, they dictate our behavior:

• We seek partners who mirror our childhood patterns—unavailable, controlling, or dismissive.

• We feel unworthy of love, success, or attention.

• We play small to stay safe or act out to get noticed.

For me, this meant I:

• Overcompensated to prove my worth.

• Played small so I wouldn’t be seen as “too much.”

• Kept people at arm’s length because vulnerability felt unsafe.

• Attracted relationships where I was not prioritized.

Rewriting the Narrative Through RTT

RTT helped me uncover a pivotal memory:

• I was two and a half years old while my family was screaming and fighting about me.

• My older siblings were resentful that I received more love than they did.

• I was terrified, crying, absorbing the belief that I was the cause of their pain.

• No one comforted me.

• My mother, exhausted, told me to “stop crying.”

That was the moment my inner child decided that I was on my own.

That I was not safe, not prioritized, and not allowed to have needs.

I had spent my entire life trying to prove I was worthy of love—when, in reality, I had always been worthy.

The Healing Process: Reparenting the Inner Child

Healing didn’t happen overnight.

Through RTT and mindset coaching, I learned to:

• Witness my old wounds instead of letting them control me.

• Grieve the younger versions of myself that were left unprotected.

• Prioritize myself without shame.

One of the most profound exercises was visualizing my adult self comforting my younger self.

I picked her up. I wiped away her tears. I told her she was safe now.

For the first time, I was able to trust myself to be my own protector.

The Transformation: Finding Safety in Myself

Before healing, my nervous system was always on high alert.

On a scale from 1 to 10, my hypervigilance was a 9.5.

Now, I live at a 2.

I feel at peace. I trust myself. I attract relationships where I am prioritized.

This is what happens when you heal at the root level.

Are You Ready to Heal Your Core Wound?

If you resonate with this, ask yourself:

• What are the patterns I keep repeating in my relationships?

• Where do I feel unworthy, unsafe, or unseen?

• How is my inner child still trying to protect me?

If you’re ready to finally address your core wound, reach out to learn how RTT and mindset coaching can help.