How you view your life is a choice— Learning how to powerfully shift your reality…
“The only journey is the one within. ”
A while ago, I bought a candle from the Italian brand Coreterno with a singular message: Break the rules. Follow your heart. A simple phrase, yet radical in its implications.
I wasn’t raised to think this way. I was told to follow the rules, to be rational at all costs—even when it crushed my spirit. I was punished for stepping out of line, warned that following my heart would only lead to heartbreak. So I played it safe. I conformed. I silenced the voice inside me that whispered, There’s another way.
What we focus on automatically becomes important to our subconscious. Yet, we rarely question the thoughts that loop in our minds day after day, the quiet beliefs shaping our entire reality.
What if you could reprogram your mind simply by shifting what you focus on?
What if your biggest breakthrough wasn’t some complex strategy—but a single, radical truth you’ve been avoiding?
The Step You’re Pretending Doesn’t Exist
Most of the time, when we feel stuck, it’s not because we don’t have the answers. It’s because the answer terrifies us. We pretend it’s not there, bypassing anything that makes us uncomfortable—anything that forces us to face our shadow.
But here’s the hard truth: Your subconscious always manifests what you focus on the most. It doesn’t care if those thoughts are helpful or destructive—it just follows the blueprint you give it.
And yet, most people live on autopilot, completely unaware of their programming. They don’t realize where their power—or powerlessness—truly lies.
The Process of Rewriting Your Mind
First, awareness. You start to notice the thoughts, the habits, the ways you self-sabotage. At first, your ego fights back—it wants to protect your identity, even if that identity is keeping you stuck.
Then comes grief—grieving the old self, the old stories, the illusion of safety that conformity once provided. You start to accept that healing is messy, nonlinear.
Eventually, you start listening to your heart again. You begin to trust yourself. You see where your patterns are keeping you small. You stop living for external validation. You realize that success, love, and worthiness aren’t destinations—they are states of being.
You start shifting your relationship with fear. You no longer see discomfort as a sign to run—but as an invitation to grow.
The Universe Will Keep Testing You
Life will keep presenting you with the same lessons until you learn them. And each time, you’ll be a different version of yourself—wiser, stronger, more aware.
This is why manifestation without deep work doesn’t work. You can force an outcome through sheer willpower, but if you haven’t rewired the beliefs underneath, you’ll keep recreating the same struggles in new forms.
I know this because I’ve done it. I’ve tried skipping the internal work, manifesting from fear and scarcity, and while I could get the thing I wanted, it always came with invisible chains. It never felt secure.
Because you don’t attract what you want—you attract who you are.
Releasing the Fear of Rejection
Your biggest fear—whether it’s rejection, failure, or loss—is not actually about the external event. It’s about what you believe that event means about you.
Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy.
Failure doesn’t mean you’re incapable.
Loss doesn’t mean you’re alone.
But if your nervous system has linked these experiences to survival, your body will respond as if you’re in danger. This is why healing isn’t just mental—it’s somatic.
For years, I internalized rejection so deeply that my entire body would react. My heart would race, my throat would tighten, my mind would spiral. No amount of positive thinking could override the subconscious belief that rejection was a threat to my existence.
So I had to go deeper.
I had to release it from my body.
Somatic work. Breathwork. Screaming into pillows. Moving stuck energy through my system.
I had to feel what I had spent a lifetime avoiding.
And once I did?
The fear lost its power.
The Shift That Changes Everything
Once you uncouple your self-worth from external outcomes, everything changes.
You stop gripping so tightly.
You stop chasing.
You stop looking for validation from people who were never capable of giving it.
Instead, you embody confidence—not because you’ve mastered perfection, but because you trust yourself no matter what.
And that’s when the real magic happens.
That’s when you start manifesting from abundance, not fear.
That’s when you stop needing the thing to come in order to feel okay—because you already are.
The Final Question
So I’ll ask you again:
What’s the radical truth you’ve been avoiding?
What’s the step that terrifies you because it would change everything?
That’s your answer.
Break the rules. Follow your heart.
Your next chapter is waiting.
’s.
How we subconsciously operate
